tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182477363609341716.post6432868829291641296..comments2024-03-28T21:20:16.151+01:00Comments on Sue's news and views: To tell or not to tell?Sue Richmondhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14881573928883759984noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182477363609341716.post-38399692257202917212016-04-04T01:26:11.092+02:002016-04-04T01:26:11.092+02:00To tell or not to tell - always a good question. W...To tell or not to tell - always a good question. Well you know me and have a general idea who does know, it is evident on my blog! However, in making certain decisions for who should be told is down to possible gut instinct and also trust too. The latter is a hard one and sometimes a judgement call needs to be made. So far it has served me well especially with "work" and my life as a whole is richer for doing so. But come to my "other" friends, that is a different matter altogether. I think the bottom line, will you as a person get anything out of it, by some people knowing or not. That is the $64000 question and only you could answer. Good luck. Kay Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03357187511248267809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182477363609341716.post-46477816054471342722016-04-04T00:12:13.534+02:002016-04-04T00:12:13.534+02:00Good advice, hon. And you have just featured on T ...Good advice, hon. And you have just featured on T Central, too. Fame all round. Sue xSue Richmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14881573928883759984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182477363609341716.post-48382649107255626812016-04-04T00:11:08.120+02:002016-04-04T00:11:08.120+02:00Thanks, Steph. I suspect she and another girl have...Thanks, Steph. I suspect she and another girl have half sussed me out already, which is why the subject of transvestites keeps cropping up (or maybe I'm just vain!) We shall see... Sue x Sue Richmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14881573928883759984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182477363609341716.post-2437268420997466152016-04-04T00:09:28.077+02:002016-04-04T00:09:28.077+02:00Thanks, Mandy. Your advice is good. Sue xThanks, Mandy. Your advice is good. Sue xSue Richmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14881573928883759984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182477363609341716.post-30190878513834952502016-03-28T12:12:11.618+02:002016-03-28T12:12:11.618+02:00Ooo, that's a tricky one isn't it. As you ...Ooo, that's a tricky one isn't it. As you say, if they share everything, you're not just coming out to one person. Then again, maybe that makes it easier. ;-)<br /><br />Flippancy aside, if you were to tell, could you tell all of them at different times, but close together? At least then, they can react as they feel comfortable, rather than being held in a group culture.<br /><br />In terms of do, or don't, I'd say make two lists. One with all the good stuff that might happen, and another with an the bad things (hint, do the bad one first). If you do go ahead, I wish you lots of luck.<br /><br />Oh, and congratulations on being featured on T-Central! Well deserved IMO. L xLynn Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876715474502367377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182477363609341716.post-14045795744642754582016-03-28T01:42:41.430+02:002016-03-28T01:42:41.430+02:00Sue it's your call but from what you have said...Sue it's your call but from what you have said about her she appears to be very open minded. Yes there is always the chance she may not want anything more to do with you, if you do tell her but I get the feeling this would not be the case. Whatever you decide you got my support and there again better her hearing it from you than someone else or may be she already has an inkling and is just waiting for you to tell her :-) HUGS Steph xxxStephanie Monroehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372601489417651881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182477363609341716.post-6955922816679652472016-03-28T01:25:48.206+02:002016-03-28T01:25:48.206+02:00You've at least been able to tell some folks. ...You've at least been able to tell some folks. That's a good thing. I may dress and be out and about among strangers, but it's really still "don't ask, don't tell." Only about 3 folks know, and they're more acquaintances that I don't see or hear from often, than friends of the family. My mom (with dementia and no memory) is the only one who knows - sort of.<br /><br />As for your situation, here are my thoughts. It sounds like your friend would be accepting. But telling could still be a gamble. If losing all of them as friends should "the worst" happen, is something you could deal with, go for it! You probably will be talked about, but the bright side is, you really could be pleasantly surprised with the outcome.<br /><br />And having more accepting friends is always a good thing. Please keep us advised as to how things go.<br /><br />Be safe...<br /><br />Hugs,<br /><br />Mandy<br />Mandy Shermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01547323395921637440noreply@blogger.com