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Thursday, 12 April 2012

Staying positive

Being trans is not easy. There are so many downsides to it; more downsides than positives. Nevertheless there are good things about it, too. For the last few years I’ve always tried to focus on those.

Sadly, these last few weeks, and for the first time since gaining an online presence as Sue about 9 years ago, I’ve had a number of abusive communications from other trans people all at once. They represent only about 0.01% of all the online traffic I’ve had so are dwarfed by the vast array of fantastically beautiful communications and other normal items I’ve received. In any case, they have little value as one’s from a well-known troll, one from a person with obvious bipolar disorder (manic depression) and others from people who, for whatever reason, are abusive and troubled. However, there’s been a higher than average amount of negative stuff online this winter, and some trouble also with the way people have addressed me in public. It’s odd that it’s all come suddenly now as I myself haven’t changed or had previous problems.

However, I shall be continuing as normal. I plan to be as positive as possible about being trans in the hope that others may take some comfort and encouragement in what is a difficult way to have to live. OK, so maybe I’m a Pollyanna. But better that than a nasty, negative abuser or a hopeless complainer. I had enough of people like that in a past life.

Sue x

10 comments:

  1. How anyone could be abusive to you is beyond me Sue. It's obvious that they have no idea how genuine and nice a person you really are. Anyone who has had the pleasure of meeting you will testify to that.

    Love Em x

    P.S. I don't think I ever thanked you properly for the gorgeous birthday present you got me. I'm off on a date tomorrow and I plan on wearing it for that x

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    1. Thank you for you very sweet comment, Emma. And I'm glad you like the pressie. Hope it brings you luck in your quest for romance. xxx

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  2. There was one well known trans troll who circled me but seems to have disappeared for the moment. Sadly its a fact of online life that you will face many trolls the best bet is never to take the bate.

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    1. Thanks for your comment, Lucy. The moderators of the site dealt with the troll pretty swiftly but it still poisoned the thread. You're right, though, and I try hard to avoid getting involved in nasty people's dramas, but it still leaves an unpleasant taste. xxx

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  3. Its probably just jealousy that you are out n about and confident chick! xoxoxox

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    1. Thanks, Sam. Yes, jealousy could be part of it. One's definitely got psychological problems (I mean that scientifically, not nastily) and could do with gentle medical assistance. Others are just nasty. Bah! Anyway, I intend to carry on with my "out n about" life. xxx

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  4. Hi Sue! Sorry to hear that you have had a few nasty comments/messages...as you hinted, I'm sure they are dwarfed by all of the positive interactions you have - it will never cease to amaze me how many wonderful friends you have!!!

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    1. Thanks, Katie. I DO have lot's of wonderful friends - you're one of them :-), and I've already had enough positive comments here to more than make up for the annoying stuff. Looking forward to next time we meet. xxx

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  5. I only just got round to reading this and I'm equally astonished. You are amongst the nicest person(s) I have ever met. As the Romans used to say (allegedly) Nil Carborundum Est.

    Big hugs,

    Tina
    xxxx

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    1. Thanks for your lovely comment, Tina, and for your support. xxx

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