The second weekend of July sees the national transgender
celebration, Sparkle, in Manchester and it attracts trans people and their
families and friends from all over the British Isles and abroad.
It’s not
possible to tell exactly how many people turn up but it’s well into four
figures. I wouldn’t miss it for anything, and as this year was Sparkle’s tenth
anniversary it promised to be extra special. I was also glad to see that there
was a strong emphasis on the female to male side of things this time as we male
to female do tend to dominate the community as a rule. It was also the last
year than Bella Jay was organising it and all credit goes to her for her
incredible work in making this brilliant weekend the success that it is. Thanks,
Bella. And also thanks to Kim Angel who founded the event and got it going.
I had booked long before but I was worried about the state
of my face, as explained in previous posts. So I only applied my makeup when I
was definitely going to go out.
Every TGirl must photograph herself in her hotel room before she goes out. It's the law. |
I started on Friday by meeting a friend who
works in Manchester and we had coffee and cake in the café in the Manchester
Art Gallery, a nice venue. I have spent most of my trips to Manchester meeting
my friends around the Gay Village and have seen very little of the rest of the
town so it was nice to do something cultural for a change and look at the
paintings, including some of my favourites such as this one.
"Silver Favourites" by Sir Lawrence Alma-Tadema. I was surprised by how small it was. |
I went to Canal Street as other friends were beginning to
turn up. I love just sitting out there in the sun with a drink, usually
strawberry cider, and saying hello to people. Emma Walkey and wife, Zazoo and
her pal David, Kerry Nope and Kat Roberts, Kay Denise … Joanne, she of the
TGirl bar who was to be my room-mate, finally made it after almost the whole day
on the road from Devon.
It's nice just to sit out on Canal Street. KD's photo. |
That evening Joanne and I smartened up and went to out for
the to eat at Velvet. It’s a relaxed venue for decent food and the nine of us
enjoyed it.
We went to the Molly House where there was a band playing
but it was so packed that we could only just get in. Actually, it was more fun
to chat on the stairs with friends like Gina and Priya. On to Napoleon’s
briefly, which was heaving, and then a quieter time in Via but poor Joanne was
dropping off after her long days travelling so we called it a night, pair of
lightweights that we are.
On Sparkle Saturday I traditionally book lunch at Villaggio
and in the past we’ve had 15-18 people come. Sadly not this year and only eight
turned up, but it was an enjoyable lunch all the same and the restaurant treat
us really nicely. Maybe next time it’ll be better to do it as a Saturday dinner
as people these days seem too hung over or full of breakfast to want much
lunch.
Traditional Saturday lunch at Villaggio in Canal Street. L-R: Emma, Joanne, Sarah, Mrs Sox, Bobby, me, KD, Mrs Walkey. |
Nice to spot Wilhelmina from Hungary and Erin from Norway in the Canal
Street crowd, as well as Lisa and Rebecca from the TGirl bar, Helen from closer
to home, Emma Hudson and Mrs H, and Maria who was the first person I ever met at Sparkle, back in 2010.
Sparkle in the Park is the main event, with the usual stalls
and live entertainment. This is where you bump into everyone, which is what
it’s all about for me and is why I go. There's plenty more 'official' entertainment laid on, but I just like the excuse to catch up with people.
But this year, this effectively marked the end of the
festivities for me as my face was so sore, raw and flaking that I couldn’t
continue. As it was, I hadn’t been able to shave that morning and I had somehow
managed to cover my stubble with enough makeup to hide it and the awful state
of my skin. I went back to the hotel, removed my makeup and my trans holiday
ended.
It was pretty devastating. My friends, though, are
kind and supportive and did persuade me to join the girls for dinner in Chinatown that night, albeit
as a guy. Fortunately, David, Zazoo’s friend was there so I didn’t feel entirely
out of place. And the following afternoon I met KD and her wife as planned. Mrs
KD has become a good friend and I did want to say hello again. She saw my male
side for the first time, which felt really odd, but as I am not living as
fulltime female, much as I might like to, I guess there’s honesty in letting
real friends see both sides of me. But I did feel out of the festivities
despite a really nice tea at the Richmond Tea Rooms. I bought a Sparkle cat to
console myself.
The World Cup final was on and although I never normally take
an interest in football, I watched that in the evening as it seemed the best
thing to do, while Joanne, looking fabulous in a lacy goth outfit, went and did
the Sparkle thing.
So basically I managed a little bit of Sparkle this year and
then had to give up. And I don’t know when I will next be able to get out en femme. It won't be for a long time.
That’s not the end of this blog, of course, as I am still
trans and that doesn’t change. I have various overlooked events to write up and
start the restaurant bit of the blog and there’s the general thoughts about
being trans. But somehow, there won’t be many out-and-about events to report on
for a while. But thank for reading this. Sparkle 2013 and 2012 were blogged in the July posts for those years. They're a bit of a contrast:
Sue x
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ReplyDeletePlease take a moment to look at my blog "emilysvirtualrocket.blogspot.com". It's a newsblog with an emphasis on transgender issues around the world. Also are shown stories featuring gay, lesbian, and bisexual issues. If you like it, please feel free to put them on your Blogroll, I will put yours on my blog. Thank you so much!
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Hello, Emily, and thanks for getting in touch. I'm not that great an enthusiast for media stories about trans issues for exactly the same reasons that I'm not an enthusiast for media generally, which are, briefly: too few correct facts, too much ignorance, too much rush to publish, too much narcissism, too little compassion, too much promotion of worry so as cynically to sell opinions on solutions. But a chance event has given me the opportunity to provide a link to your blog in my latest post (13/8/14). Sue x
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