Tuesday, 7 April 2026

Fun and frustration

 It's been a good holiday weekend, but frustrating, too. I normally enjoy the long easter break as it's a chance to get my hair and makeup on ... but not this time because all my neighbours, who are usually here only occasionally, all turned up. I mean, it's nice to be sociable and say hi, but I would've preferred the outdoor girl time I'd planned. All our homes overlook each other and the partitions between them are glass so there's no real privacy outdoors (see my photo below, taken around Christmas).

 


Oh well, gardening in my usual slacks it was, then. 

 

Foodie 

I am just shy of the half way point in my slimming drive. A bit more off and I should be in the healthy weight range again after 15 years of being too large. But I decided to pause the slimming and have a foodie weekend.

So on Saturday I enjoyed a trip into nearby Sanremo and was pleased to see my favourite stallholder at the market back in his usual position after a period in hospital. Ditto my favourite restaurateur who'd been doubled up with appendicitis last time I went. 

Everything here can be haggled a bit, whether at the market or at the restaurant. The lady who runs the fabulous if expensive spice shop opposite was eating there, too, so maybe after our pleasant chat she'll give me a bit off next time. This Domestic Goddess likes to save money in exchange for a smile! 

Sunday I took time over making lunch at home, not something that normally happens. And Easter Monday is traditionally barbecue day in Italy so everyone was out, grilling away! ...Mmm, sausages! 

 

Sanremo Pride

The Pride season here in Italy kicks off with Sanremo Pride, which is next Saturday, and this year the parade starts at the newly remodelled main square, rather then being slightly sidelined. It's even received some funding from the council. 

I really want to go but, as in the past, there's a clear risk of my outing myself in my neighbourhood. This is always a frustration, as I pointed out just last week in relation to Trans Day of Visibility. I've looked into going to Nice Pride in July instead but the cost of hotels in that chic resort in high summer is ludicrous. 

Let's see what I can resolve. But I shall be seeing trans friends in London soon so I will be getting my Outdoor Girl Time this spring whatever happens.

 

Barbecalculus

In that outstanding comedic work, The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy, the science of flipping spacecraft across the mind-bendingly vast gulfs of space is explored in increasingly ludicrous ways, culminating in Bistromathics, which applies the contorted unpredictability of groups booking, arriving, ordering, being served and paying in a typical restaurant to the complexities of intergalactic travel. 

I'd like to point out to physicists, as they loop a craft around the moon or devise ever more murderous missiles, that the complex torsions of barbecue smoke could indicate new mathematics. No matter the direction of the actual wind, or the angle, height, power or chimney availability of the barbecuing device, or the inherent smokiness of the food or fuel, my smoke will move around me to envelop my neighbours and theirs will make similarly contorted flight to envelop me. You can imagine that with several barbecues going simultaneously, these mutually avoidant palls of aromatic smoke create very complex trajectories as they home in on their targets with no apparent reference to normal outside forces. This might be the breakthrough into hyperspace physics that has so far been only a dream. 

I shall call this new science Barbecalculus and universities are invited to apply to Sue's Science Foundation for supplies of uneaten sausages, onions and broken charcoal to help them in their experiments. 

Sue x 

6 comments:

  1. "...there's a clear risk of my outing myself..."

    FWIW, I worried about that for Nottingham Pride. No one has ever asked me - yes, I lead a sheltered life 😉 - as yet. In truth, I go with my Parent Hat on, and to represent our lovely son.

    I dare say they'd happily lend a distant Aunt Sue the magical disguise. However, you'd have to translate "Protect Trans Kids" as I dare not trust AI.

    Person A "What's that English bloke hiding a trans pride flag doing?"

    Person B "Umm. I think they want something about transferring miniature tables safely. Brits eh? They've really lost it since Leaving."

    😉

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I went to the first ever Sanremo Pride in 2022 but just as a sort of nondescript hanger-on. I didn't feel safe or confident going fully dressed and presenting as a trans woman, which meant I didn't feel part of it and so peeled away pretty quickly. Living in a block of flats with only one feasible route out to the march is the issue, and would be even if I had a car. I do wish they'd hurry up with teleportation device development! Sue xx

      Delete
  2. I must begin by chastising you, Ms Richmond. A foodie post without the details to salivate over. What does your favourite stallholder sell? And what did you eat in your favourite restaurant? You're public demand to know. BBQ sausages are simply not enough to keep us satisfied

    As to San Remo Pride. Your attendance probably wouldn't surprise your neighbours. I'm sure they have some suspicions that you are not a red blooded, macho kind of guy. I've met you in drab and en-femme and your pretty much the same person with a naturally femme character. And the women neighbours will almost certainly have clocked that your clothes are actually women's clothes, despite being fairly unisex. But obviously it's your call. You have to live there and be comfortable with things.
    Attendance of Pride in your usual attire might not be ideal for you, but maybe you could use it as an opportunity to try and chat to some of the trans community attending? You could possibly find that connection with local like minded trans girls, that you have been struggling to find? You could introduce yourself, show them photos of you dressed and maybe this blog, and I'm sure they wouldn't mind that you are not fully out and dressed.
    Obviously those are just my thoughts. You are the one who knows how things are there in reality, and what you feel comfortable with.

    Dee xxx

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Ha ha, sorry, won't happen again, Miss! I thought people might be bored of food details but evidently not! The stallholder sells CDs not food.

      The main problem is that Pride clashed with the easter holiday week this year, that's why the place was rammed with neighbours and visitors who come here only during holiday season. So it's not just that I can't easily get out without being spotted (and here people are nosier than your average Brit) but it's that it's 45 minutes to the event through the idling crowds on my own no matter how I go. I did go through the various options carefully and decided, as before, that Pride in another place might work better. I feel inauthentic attending Pride if I'm not fully myself, you know what I mean?

      Sue xx

      Delete
  3. What a pitty dear Sue that all your neighbours came along and you had not enough privacy to show your feminine side. Do they really not know about your passion?. I know how it feels when you are planning something (especially dressing up) and then it is not possible. Maybe you can get to San Remo Pride- hide yourself under a hooded coat LOL.
    Thanks for your ever so kind visits to my blog. Have a good time, all the best and hugs
    Violetta

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Hi Violetta, no they don't know about me and I don't trust people enough yet. One next-door neighbour is a politician for the most extreme fascist party and the other is my landlord. So I'd prefer to avoid any problems with them. It's a pity that Pride was in easter week when everyone is here on holiday.

      Sue xx

      Delete