I started writing a post a couple of years ago when
increasing attention was being paid to alleged abuse of children by TV
celebrities that spanned several decades. Most of us were somewhat sceptical –
after all, how could our beloved childhood heroes have possibly been evil? But
what with the recent convictions of British media giants such as Rolf Harris,
Stuart Hall, Max Clifford, Dave Lee Travis and others, and the condemnation of
the late Jimmy Savile, it is clear that from the 1960s onwards the systematic
abuse of youngsters, and the cover-up, in the British media was overwhelming.
Since then, and in the light of abuse involving other
organisations, notably the Roman Catholic Church, other police investigations
have been opened into abuse by politicians, and abuse in schools, children’s
homes, etc. The detective in charge of the investigation into politicians has
already been removed and, given the British establishment’s brilliance in
protecting its own, I doubt anything will come of that.
Over the last few months I have been I touch with Scotland
Yard, London’s police headquarters, about systematic abuse at my own school,
one of hundreds such. I have also spoken to all my friends who went to school
in the same era, just to compare experiences. The results of my chats were
astonishing.
Sexual abuse at my school
I said school wasn’t great but I survived and it was hard to
be enthusiastic about it. I’d like to expand on that.
My school educated me, and did so pretty well, in fact, but
it was a place to survive and tolerate rather than be inspired by. Why? Because
the abuse was extreme. I survived it, others less well. But then I never
suffered – thank God – a direct sexual assault, unlike dozens of others who
went there.
Like so many British educational establishments, it was a
single-sex school. I’ve never been clear why the British consider separating
girls and boys to be such an important thing when educating them, but that is
the fact in this country. I went to a boys’ school, therefore. As a transgender
‘boy’, this was an unhappy situation. But the idea is to be educated and, to be
honest, I didn’t resent boys' things. I just liked girls’ things, too. So it
was toy soldiers in public, dollies in private; footballs in public, skipping
ropes in private; shorts in public, dresses in private. And wishing I could be
a ballerina as well as an astronaut. That sort of a life.
Clearly, because of the way the law is framed (and because
of prurient British interests in sexual matters), the police are looking into
sex offences. There were plenty, and we youngsters all knew about them at the
time but a conspiracy of silence accompanies all institutions and it is only
now, decades later, that we seem to be able to talk properly about our
experiences. The mafia word omertà is
much used in this year’s media reports about this. Or, as would have been said
in my day, “Gentlemen don’t tell tales”. It is right that sexual offences
should have priority. Being ‘broken into’, as they say in Essex, is the
ultimate violation of a person’s dignity and rights as well as their person. I
do feel, though, that the emphasis on this alone risks covering the fact that
sexual violence is merely one aspect of a wider culture of violent and
psychological abuse. Recall how rape was used twenty years ago in Bosnia and
Rwanda as part of an overarching process of ‘ethnic cleansing’ and domination.
All of us were given genital inspections on a regular basis.
Or just ogled in the showers. For most of us, that’s as far as it went. But I
am sorry for those children at my school who were raped and subjected to
humiliating sexual treatment at the hands of many evil teachers (and one or two
other boys), most of whom have now died and so evaded justice. Offering
children money for sex does not make it OK. Offering sexual alternatives to due
punishment under school rules is not OK either. I am even more disgusted that
those who ought to have dealt with the abuse correctly – especially headmasters
– saw fit to act by quietly moving offending teachers out (only when caught) and giving them
decent references for other schools, thus shifting the problem off themselves
and onto other establishments who, in their turn, appear to have taken the same
approach. I remain furious, after so many years, that parents such as mine
assume that children are incorrigible liars and that authority is, by
definition, automatically right.
Violence
But I mentioned a wider culture of abuse. That would be the
violence perpetrated against us by our teachers. On the physical level, we
had official corporal punishment occasionally, and detentions were also a
popular form of punishment, but that was a system that was regulated, at least
in principle. The only system that was. Teachers were no longer allowed to use
the cane themselves but were to refer gross misdemeanours to the headmaster.
But only if they felt like it, which simply gave the abusive teachers the power
to use their inventiveness on matters that they elected not to refer to the
headmaster. Any system of discipline must be that: a process with clear rules
so that those who commit offences under those rules may know what to expect in
the way of reparation. It won’t do to give teachers free reign to be judge,
jury and executioner according to their whims. You soon learnt what it was that
set a particular teacher into a fury: this one hates sneezing in class (yes,
really), that one cannot tolerate slouching, the other has random hates and you
don’t know where you are from day to day. And that teacher there, well, he has
lighted on that particular boy on whom to take out his hatred for the whole
class. He’s the whipping boy for the lesson, or the week, or the term.
Gym shoes, spiked football boots, cricket bats and rulers
all work very well on young bottoms, a wooden board rubber aimed at the head
can be very effective especially if it raises a red bump or a black eye. Best,
of course, is the unflinching use of hands and feet. A good crack round the
chops (repeated at will) … or a firm punch anywhere on the body. Best of all,
though, is kicking. A rain of kicks on the shin will render even the toughest
boy to a crying wreck and leave bruises and a limp for days – nothing like
seeing your victim in real pain, is there? The humiliation is a given, of
course. Which means you can then, in addition, tease the boy for being a wimp.
We’re talking of boys aged mainly from 9 to 12 here. It would be a brave
teacher who took on a 17-year old, 14-stone rugby forward who might be thinking
of a career in the army, so as we got older the teachers knew they could touch
us less and less. One teacher famously missed a kick at a boy’s backside and
broke his foot on the boy’s chair and hobbled around on crutches with foot in
plaster for several weeks, such was the force of the blow he aimed. We didn’t
know the word karma in those days,
though. (Incidentally, the boy would have been aged around 11.) Just grab a boy
and throw him across the room, bash his head on the desk or crack it against
his neighbour’s. Repeat as required. The sound is satisfying. Go ahead,
teacher, that’s what you’re here for, to satisfy your lust for power over the
powerless. Justice never seemed to come into it. What with this and the
hate-driven religion I was brought up in (more on that another day), I have
never been able to equate punishment with justice as a result. The basic aim of
school was to be punished or avoid punishment. You learnt the teachers who
liked punishment and any especial things that they would punish you for. Not
the same as what other teachers would punish you for, of course. You had to
guess to start with and learn the hard way. Of course, a really great teacher
keeps the boys guessing. All the time. And so has the satisfaction of
brutalising someone in every class every lesson. The school law is like that of
Sparta, unwritten and hard to know, and, like Sparta, the culture is brutal and
physical. So keep your head down and your nose clean and never ever catch
anyone’s eye. If you lucky, though, your teacher, who has just drawn your
blood, will be oh so remorseful and maybe start caressing you. How nice and
kind of them. Really lucky boys get invited to teachers’ homes and studies
where they are given a direct demonstration of what a grown-up boy looks like
and what a grown-up boy can do with his manhood. Nice.
Shouting at full volume at a boy is, of course, expected.
Calling him names is pathetic but, hey, you’re the big important man who’s
standing at the head of the class. Get the boy to stand up all lesson and make
him answer all the questions. It’s a slap for every one he then gets wrong.
Stand outside, stand in the corner, stay behind. And so on. “No, Sir, I don’t
know the answer to the question. I don’t think we’ve been taught this yet and,
no, I can’t guess it yet. Stand Up? Yes, OK. Sorry, didn’t mean to slouch. Biff! Again, I don’t know. Pow! Don’t snivel? No, Sir. Kick!” Later, much later, we see Mr Blonde taking his
satisfaction of a trussed-up cop in Reservoir Dogs. That brings back memories. There’d have been a
gasoline shower for us, too, if the stuff hadn’t been so expensive in the ’70s.
We read school violence in our weekly comics and kid’s books (The
Bash Street Kids in the Beano or the suitably illustrated ‘plain blip for
numskulls’ and ‘headshave with ruler’ in Molesworth), so we assume that’s what
school is. You get through it. Some boys have to suck dick, too. It’s just life
and you’re glad that particular task wasn’t yours.
The reverends were almost the worst, men obsessed with
punishment and the need to control and who used sexual brutality and humiliation
as a weapon on many. Of the three I recall as being title Reverend, two have
been investigated by the police and described as “serial paedophiles”. But
they’re dead now. If you want to classify it by subject, those who taught
Latin, for some reason, were the worst. Maybe they dreamed of running a school
for gladiators or something, where only ruthless training makes for the best
bloody spectacles. (Whereas French teachers, for instance, seemed a bit weak.
We took advantage of them; I guess it was a relief to know you weren’t going to
get it so badly in their class.) Worse even than the reverends were those who
were known to be freemasons. They seemed capable of unrestrained malice, yet
always kept just within the law, such as it was. The few women teachers were
generally OK. Well, less nasty than the men. It’s all relative, of course.
The brutality from above rubs off on the boys and they come
up with inventive tortures, like Sadistic Black Jack, or wedgies applied at any
time and for any or no reason (or just a good kick in the nuts – it’s not
considered sporting, but it’s a regular way of solving a fight – and once in a
while boys are hospitalised after such damage), or the ‘paddy whack’ (you pass
between two lines of boys who thump you, a bit like the traditional punishment
in the Prussian army), or the classic wet towel whack, or the ‘sting’ (a
downward flick of the fingers onto the buttocks – more painful than you’d
guess), or the ‘operation’ (hold them down, remove their shorts and underpants
and punch them in the bits – if they need anaesthetic gas, get someone to fart
in their face first); there was indeed an elaborate system of warding off or
awarding punishment for farting – list the names of ten brands of cigarette or
titles of porn mags whilst your arm is vigorously thumped as hard and often as
possible. Chinese burns, ear tweaking, the sharp bit of a compass in the fleshy
bits (or even the face on occasion). Heat something up in a bunsen burner and
apply the hot object to the seat of someone’s pants. The yelp gets them into
trouble. Scratch another boy’s name into a desk and see them get sent to the
head. Why not fold someone into the waste paper bin so they can’t get out
before teacher walks in to take the lesson? Watch them get into trouble for that
or any one of a thousand other japes. Or just lay into each other with the
contents of a cricket bag – bats, stumps, hard cricket balls. A cricket stump
rammed in the belly is pretty effective. But it’s OK, folks, at least it’s not
the sharp end. Slam inattentive fingers in the window (seriously exquisite pain
guaranteed). We give, we receive, we invent and apply. We learn to dodge and
skyve and cheat. …We survive.
I mentioned Reservoir Dogs. Actually, it's more of a cross between Lord of the Flies and Scum (a film of the era set in a boys' borstal, except we hadn't been convicted of anything).
It’s the abuse of power that disgusts me most. We went to
learn stuff in good faith and instead we ran the gauntlet all the time of
seemingly random beatings, punishments and abuse. Given with impunity. And
many, many pupils were sexually assaulted, too. Those teachers who are still
alive are being arrested and charged for the latter issue and there are already some in jail. Most have long since
died, praised as war heroes and, naturally, great paedagogues.
I survive. I keep a low profile. I learn what sets each
crazed teacher off and avoid it, do just enough work to avoid serious
punishment … and quietly, at home, I create a different life. I make friends
and we do support each other in the face of a greater enemy. I am not so badly
treated as others, I can’t say that I am really bullied by my peers and I
generally hold my own, but some terms I can’t help but feel that dying would be
better than living.
Wider environment
Not all that far from the school were two men’s public toilets that
we are told to avoid. They are a notorious pick-up place for men, and boys. We
aren’t told that, but we know.
Not all that far from the school was a children’s home. You
can guess the rest.
Not all that far from the school was a gay and paedophile
brothel. The gay bit is fine in my view. The paedophile bit is not. The police
are still working on that one. The kids who disappeared will obviously never
know justice, and I doubt their parents will. Especially not those kids who
paid the ultimate price of high art by starring in paedo snuff movies. It is
believed that such films were made there.
Not all that far from the school is a park where women get
attacked and raped virtually every week. Streakers (this is the ’70s) regularly
run naked up the path behind the school. Plenty of yobs do, too – skinheads,
punks wielding bike chains, biker boys with flick knives. The whole area reeks
of sleaze and violence, as does the school. But that’s what we were used to and
we just assumed that was life, then and for ever. Britain in the ’70s and early
’80s was in economic crisis and our society was tormented and violent. We at
school were just a microcosm of Britain as a whole, perhaps. Maybe that’s why
Jimmy Savile’s behaviour was never really questioned at the time, nor that of
his peers. Things were different back then, we are told. They were, but does
that make those things OK?
I believe that 30-40 years on now, life is much better.
There’s much less fear, worry, conflict and violence in our society. We can talk about
things like this. Not perfect, of course, but a great improvement.
What’s this got to do with trans matters, and justice?
I left school at 18 and have never been back there. Why
would I? They educated me; job done. When I first started going out in public
as a woman I wondered if I should go to the school’s annual Open Day as an ‘old
girl’, as it were. But then I had to ask myself what my motive was. I couldn’t
think of one, so I didn’t go. There must be other ‘old boys’ there who are now
also ‘old girls’ like me. I’m not sure how to get in touch with them.
I never mentioned out loud then that I’d have preferred to be a
girl. Not openly. Just in slightly cryptic pencil annotations to schoolbooks,
or quietly graffitied in dark recesses of cupboards or hidden areas of toilets
where badly-drawn phallic images proliferated.
I have been chatting to my friends since the storm broke
about six months ago. Their experiences of school, while not always fun, are
totally different. Some went to single-sex schools, others to mixed schools;
some went to public/private schools, most went to state schools. Nobody else
experienced this sort of treatment, neither excess punishment and violence, nor
abuse; and, with one minor exception, there was no sexual mistreatment. I feel
resentful now that I should have been subject to this injustice, and that I
couldn’t come out as trans, at least to my peers, when I was younger. Why did I,
of all people, have to end up in a culture of macho violence, sadism, abuse and
brutality? I assumed that everyone who
went to school had similar experiences. This is not the case at all. I notice
lots of kids these days saying they enjoy going to school. And I think: what’s
wrong with you?! You’re not supposed to like school. It’s somewhere you go to be disciplined and
educated, nothing more.
I don’t know what justice will be done. As I said, most of
the perps are dead now. Maybe the school will be a much better place from now
on. Or maybe it will close as a result of the bad publicity. I’m doing what
little I can to assist the police, though I know others have much worse and
more effective tales to tell. The violence is not prosecutable at this length
of time later.
As for being trans, well, that’s something that’s had to be
a quiet thing virtually all my life for fear of the consequences. Stunting
people through fear is the way to control them. Institutions like governments,
religions, schools, homes for children and the elderly do that very well. Such
organisations should be avoided.
I am still thinking about how I feel about all this. I felt
at the time that life was random, cruel and nasty. There’s one law for the
powerful and a very different law for the rest. But I realise now that it’s
only particular environments that create that feeling. I am curious to know
more about how other people, especially trans people, felt about school. I do
have two trans friends who were subject to sustained, appalling sexual abuse as
children and the perpetrators did go to jail. But no jail term ever repairs a
life that’s been ruined.
I half-drafted a post about the religion I grew up in and
how that affected my perceptions of myself as a trans person, but I found it
distressing even after all these years and stopped writing. But publishing that
may serve a purpose, too, as the feeling of injustice is similar.
Thank you for reading all this way down. I have tried as
much as possible to be positive in this “Sue’s news and views” blog to
encourage other trans people to live a life nearer to the one they would like,
and to that end it’s been much more news than views. And I suppose this whole
issue illustrates how really important it is that you must not allow other
people to dominate and destroy you. And we must all fight the brutality of the
domineering, the cruel, the abusive and the criminal.
[ADD: 27 October: In the light of Demi's thoughtful comment below, I am still trying to see how different my experience was to that of other children of the era, in Britain or elsewhere. I would find your comments helpful.
We who seek justice must always be just. There are people who are sexually attracted to children. This seems to be a fact, presumably in the same way that many people are attracted to people of the same sex as themselves, or to particular types of people, or have a fetish or fascination for a particular kind of thing (for instance, BDSM - something I don't understand either - is so common it may be considered mainstream). It's how you go about satisfying your need for what you love that distinguishes you. I do feel that a proper, rational, adult discussion on paedophilia needs to be undertaken, rather than knee-jerk reactions so as to avoid miscarriages of justice. My gripe here is that the sexual abuse of children at my school had little to do with sex but was merely one tool in a whole armoury of repression and brutality. I don't think paedophilia ("love of children", to translate it) ever really came into it.]
Contact the police if you feel that you were abused as a
child (or even later). There are many investigations on the go with different
names and different detectives and, of course, Britain has local police forces
with their own arrangements. But Scotland Yard can be contacted on 020 7230
1212 and they can pass you on to other local forces when matters are not being
dealt with by them at national level.
The next post will be jolly.
Sue x
